The engine is off, and the car sits in the driveway while the old argument replays. The disagreement is over, but the old fight from your first marriage is playing in your head, and you are vowing, again, not to repeat it. This book is for that moment. It helps you sort the lessons you learned the hard way from the reflexes that now fire before you have time to think. You will learn to tell the difference between a present disagreement and an old script, to check a misheard comment before it becomes an accusation, and to build small habits that belong to this marriage rather than the last one. Repair is a shared project, never one person's job, and this book treats both partners fairly. It does not tell you to stay or to leave. It does not diagnose anyone. Where a situation is beyond a book, it says so plainly and points to real help. Corazon Bacani writes with a steady, plainspoken voice for adults of any gender or orientation, in any kind of committed partnership, who want to build something new on old lessons.
The engine is off, and the car sits in the driveway while the old argument replays. The disagreement is over, but the old fight from your first marriage is playing in your head, and you are vowing, again, not to repeat it. This book is for that moment. It helps you sort the lessons you learned th...