The Night I Read His Phone: Healing After Infidelity for the Betrayed Wife: Survive the Discovery, Calm the Betrayal Trauma, and Decide Whether to Stay or Go

This book is for the wife who found out about an affair, whether it was last night or last spring. Everyone has an opinion about whether you should stay. Nobody has asked how you are breathing. The Night I Read His Phone is written for you, not for the marriage and not for him.

Agatha Tonka walks with you through the first night, the first weeks and the first year after an affair, alongside women at every point on that road, and names what the research says about betrayal trauma, disclosure and repair. The chapters cover why your body is reacting this way and how to get through the next week, how much truth to ask for and how to ask, what real repair would require of him, how to protect your health, your money and your children, and how to decide whether to stay or go when you are ready, not before.

Expect plain words and the stories of women who stood where you are standing. This book does not tell you which way to choose. It helps you choose.

This book is general information and stories about infidelity and betrayal in marriage. It is not therapy, legal advice or a crisis service. If you are ever afraid for your safety, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline, or call 911 in an emergency.